we were not meant to walk alone
We Were Not Meant to Walk Alone
Friendships matter more than we realize.
The Bible says in Genesis 2:18
“It is not good that the man should be alone.”
Yes, that passage is speaking directly about marriage. But I don’t think it’s limited to marriage. It reveals something deeper about human design.
We were not created to live alone.
And yet, loneliness is quietly becoming one of the great struggles of our time.
People who walk alone often suffer alone.
People who walk alone celebrate alone.
People who walk alone carry weight that was never meant to be carried by one set of shoulders.
Isolation slowly shrinks a life.
Jesus and Friendship
If anyone didn’t “need” friendship, it was Jesus.
And yet — He chose it.
He gathered twelve.
He drew three even closer.
He wept with them.
He ate with them.
He walked dusty roads with them.
And then He said something stunning:
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”
(John 15:13)
Notice the word.
Friends.
Jesus doesn’t just model community — He defines friendship as sacrificial love.
That’s a higher, deeper, more costly vision than what our culture often offers.
The Cost and Beauty of Real Friendship
In today’s world of technology and screens, we are connected constantly — but rarely known deeply.
We scroll.
We like.
We comment.
But we often miss the tangible, frustrating, joyful, awkward, stretching experience of actually doing life with someone.
Friendship is inconvenient.
It’s vulnerable.
It requires time.
It requires forgiveness.
But it is also one of God’s greatest gifts.
Ecclesiastes says:
“Two are better than one… For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow.”
(Ecclesiastes 4:9–10)
That’s not poetic fluff. That’s survival language.
We lift each other.
We steady each other.
We remind each other who we are.
As Proverbs 27:17 says:
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
Sharpening isn’t always comfortable.
But it is transformative.
A poet once wrote, “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
I think the same is true of friendship.
Better to risk the hurt than to live untouched.
If You’re Struggling to Make Friends
If friendship feels hard right now — you’re not alone in that struggle.
But maybe it’s time to be brave.
Here are a few questions worth asking:
1. What are you needing in a friend?
Encouragement? Honesty? Shared experience? Spiritual depth?
Be clear about what your heart longs for.
2. What do you have to offer as a friend?
Friendship isn’t just about receiving — it’s about giving.
Are you available? Loyal? Honest? Present?
3. Is there someone around you right now you could pursue?
Sometimes we’re waiting for the perfect friend when God has already placed someone near us.
4. Are you willing to get hurt?
This might be the hardest question.
Real friendship requires vulnerability.
And vulnerability always carries risk.
But so does isolation.
Designed for Relationship
At the core of the Christian faith is relationship.
We are invited into relationship with God.
We are adopted into a family (Romans 8:15).
We are called the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:27).
Christianity is not a solo journey.
You were created for relationship.
You were designed for friendship.
You were made to walk with others.
And yes — it’s worth it.
Even when it’s hard.
Even when it stretches you.
Even when it requires courage.
Because God has created you to live this way.
Friendships matter more than we realize.
The Bible says in Genesis 2:18
“It is not good that the man should be alone.”
Yes, that passage is speaking directly about marriage. But I don’t think it’s limited to marriage. It reveals something deeper about human design.
We were not created to live alone.
And yet, loneliness is quietly becoming one of the great struggles of our time.
People who walk alone often suffer alone.
People who walk alone celebrate alone.
People who walk alone carry weight that was never meant to be carried by one set of shoulders.
Isolation slowly shrinks a life.
Jesus and Friendship
If anyone didn’t “need” friendship, it was Jesus.
And yet — He chose it.
He gathered twelve.
He drew three even closer.
He wept with them.
He ate with them.
He walked dusty roads with them.
And then He said something stunning:
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”
(John 15:13)
Notice the word.
Friends.
Jesus doesn’t just model community — He defines friendship as sacrificial love.
That’s a higher, deeper, more costly vision than what our culture often offers.
The Cost and Beauty of Real Friendship
In today’s world of technology and screens, we are connected constantly — but rarely known deeply.
We scroll.
We like.
We comment.
But we often miss the tangible, frustrating, joyful, awkward, stretching experience of actually doing life with someone.
Friendship is inconvenient.
It’s vulnerable.
It requires time.
It requires forgiveness.
But it is also one of God’s greatest gifts.
Ecclesiastes says:
“Two are better than one… For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow.”
(Ecclesiastes 4:9–10)
That’s not poetic fluff. That’s survival language.
We lift each other.
We steady each other.
We remind each other who we are.
As Proverbs 27:17 says:
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
Sharpening isn’t always comfortable.
But it is transformative.
A poet once wrote, “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
I think the same is true of friendship.
Better to risk the hurt than to live untouched.
If You’re Struggling to Make Friends
If friendship feels hard right now — you’re not alone in that struggle.
But maybe it’s time to be brave.
Here are a few questions worth asking:
1. What are you needing in a friend?
Encouragement? Honesty? Shared experience? Spiritual depth?
Be clear about what your heart longs for.
2. What do you have to offer as a friend?
Friendship isn’t just about receiving — it’s about giving.
Are you available? Loyal? Honest? Present?
3. Is there someone around you right now you could pursue?
Sometimes we’re waiting for the perfect friend when God has already placed someone near us.
4. Are you willing to get hurt?
This might be the hardest question.
Real friendship requires vulnerability.
And vulnerability always carries risk.
But so does isolation.
Designed for Relationship
At the core of the Christian faith is relationship.
We are invited into relationship with God.
We are adopted into a family (Romans 8:15).
We are called the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:27).
Christianity is not a solo journey.
You were created for relationship.
You were designed for friendship.
You were made to walk with others.
And yes — it’s worth it.
Even when it’s hard.
Even when it stretches you.
Even when it requires courage.
Because God has created you to live this way.
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